Second to last month of...the decade!

The end of one month and beginning of the next is the perfect time to look ahead and reset where you are and where you’re going.  It’s less intimidating and overwhelming than the beginning of a new year, and much more manageable to think about how you’ll use the next month to have more of the things you want in your career and life, and less of the things you don’t.  And, as we enter one of the last two months of the decade, now is a great time to follow these six steps to set yourself up for a great month.    

First, it sounds counter-intuitive, but start your look at the next month with a look back at the last.  What were your wins and highlights?  Did you make progress on a big project at work?  Pack your lunch most days?  Spend more time with friends?  Stay patient and engaged during an extended visit from the in-laws?  Whatever it is, note it in your calendar, Evernote, or somewhere else.  We're good at remembering our mistakes and where we fell short, but reflecting on where you did well last month will put you in the right mindset to start the next month off right.  

Next, look at opportunities to improve.  With last month’s successes fresh in your mind, you'll be in a better frame of mind to consider what you'd like to try new next month.  Maybe your great plans to exercise 5 times a week aren't working out, so take the opportunity to decide what you can do differently -- maybe 5:30 a.m. jogs down the dark streets aren't your thing right now, but meeting a friend for a group class after work will be more realistic (and more fun). 

Once you've looked back, look forward.  How do you want to feel looking back a month from now?  What will be important to you?  Maybe you want to cut your expenses, spend more time with friends, or finally make progress on that project you've been procrastinating.  Ask yourself what resources will help you achieve those goals.  Maybe it’s buying an unlimited yoga class package, or hiring a trainer.  Or maybe you’re realizing the year (and decade!) is more than 80% over and you still haven’t made progress on leaving the job that’s wiping you out.  Think about whether help with your resume, a career transitions coach, or Future in Focus 2020 Mastermind  are what you need to finally stop sliding along and take control over your career.  If so, November is the time to start taking action — both to take advantage of 2019 pricing and while you can still get early sign up bonuses for Future in Focus 2020.    

After looking forward and thinking about how you want to feel at the end of November, look at what you already have scheduled for the next month.  (Are you hosting Thanksgiving, or need to travel for it?  Have a big deadline at work?)  Then go a little further ahead and look at two months out.  Are there things you'll need to prepare for?  (Do you need to set aside time and money to prepare for the holidays?  Will end of year work duties take up a chunk of December?  Does the pet need a check-up scheduled?)

Within the parameters of set commitments for the month, what do you want to add to your calendar?  Make sure you are including the things that are important to you, whether focused time to catch up on work, quality time with family, time to check in with your network, concentrated time to finally make real progress on that long-delayed personal project, exercise, or anything else.   

Equally or more important, what do you want to subtract?  Consider how your current schedule for next month reflects what you want and your values.  If you want to look back on the upcoming month glad that you were able to have dinner with your family four times each week, planning to attend a different networking event every night is going to make that hard.   Likewise, if you want to cut back on how much you spend on entertainment, scheduling a lot of expensive outings won't support that goal.  So take the time now to address it.

You have the power to modify or say no to many of the things on your calendar, and it’s much easier to do that weeks in advance.  (If you need some tips on how to stop giving 110%, this post will help.)  Besides, if you’re looking at your calendar now and realizing things aren’t set up to get you the results you want, it’s not going to get better once the month gets underway and new things pop up.  

The next month is a blank slate, and the choice is yours: be intentional and take control, or sit back, let it be filled up for you, and find yourself wondering where the month went when December rolls around.